Thursday, October 30, 2014

To another Council of Equals

Last weekend our dear friends LG and B were married at the DC War Memorial. It was a perfect ceremony - laughter, tears, full hearts, and so much love. We were so happy to be part of their day and to support a wedding of two individuals who quite simply belong together. That the District (and increasingly, the entire country) allows them to marry legally is an important reason why we love living here. Get a load of this gorgeousness:


As their wedding date got closer, T and I spent a lot of time reminiscing about our own wedding, five and a half years ago now. In lieu of favors we donated to Freedom to Marry, which felt like a big deal in 2009. In 2014, it'd be almost passe, which is pretty awesome. Thinking about how much ground has been covered in the simple effort to make love legal makes me all kinds of happy. (I mean seriously - check out this chart!)

At the LG&B reception - tipsy on champagne and oysters, per the me+B tradition - I read a poem for them that was part of our ceremony, too. This is my ode (well okay, Alice Walker's) to two complete individuals joining forces and, rather than meshing into the ubiquitous and boring "one" that so many folks seem to romanticize, each becoming doubly awesome in turn. The world needs more awesome, more LG+B, and more councils of equals. That's a world where I want to be.


Beyond What
Alice Walker

We reach for destinies beyond 
what we have come to know
and in the romantic hush
of promises
perceive each
the other's life
as known mystery.
Shared. But inviolate.
No melting. No squeezing
into One.
We swing our eyes around
as well as side to side
to see the world.
To choose, renounce,
this, or that -
call it a council between equals
call it love. 

7 comments:

  1. I'm tearing up at my desk. What a perfect sentiment--that poem should be read at every wedding!

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  2. I should probably write about my own wedding at some point, but in the meantime THIS IS PERFECT. Big thanks to you and T for being there to support, toast, and bear witness to the doubling of the awesome. You two are a pretty good model, if I do say so myself.

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  3. i'm so awful for commenting on this post so, so, so late.

    BUT: we're so grateful that you and T are such an important part of our lives here, and that you were able to share your congratulations so beautifully. thank you again for everything! <3

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  4. i'm so awful for commenting on this post so, so, so late.

    BUT: we're so grateful that you and T are such an important part of our lives here, and that you were able to share your congratulations so beautifully. thank you again for everything! <3

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